How I found my tribe at the Body Electric School
“I knew I had found my tribe.”
Our community is what makes us who we are. Every Body Electric School event is an alchemical container of sensual and erotic transformation, and if you can’t experience this magic for yourself, then you’ll have to take our student’s word for it. Stories from our community are real stories of real transformation from our students to inspire you to come along to an event and try it for yourself.
This is Brammeier’s story:
“At my first CBE in the fall of 2005, I knew I had found my tribe.
For fourteen years since, I’ve benefited from connecting, learning and growing with this tribe of mostly, but not all, men. Thanks to them and to the School, I’ve deepened my understanding of myself, my sexuality and my connection to Eros, the spirit of life.
As I write this, I struggle because I want it to be perfect. Then I listen a little deeper and know that one of the lessons I’ve learned from these men is that I don’t have to be perfect. Just me.
For much of my life, I’ve sat in chairs across from counselors and therapists, engaged in talk therapy to explore and understand myself. But the enhanced awareness and deepening of my erotic energy that I found in the work of Body Electric have brought an added transformative dimension to my growth.
I experienced revelations through open-hearted, compassionate touch with BE that were not previously accessible to me. I have also experienced joyful, childlike play that makes me smile as I write. I have walked into fears knowing I was safely held by men I could trust would catch me, and I have soared to amazing spiritual heights.
Most of all, I have let go of shame about who I am as a gay man, and learned to appreciate more deeply the gifts I bring to the world.
I credit the Body Electric School, along with other spiritual work that I’ve done, with allowing me to serve as a Sacred Intimate to my son, Joe, as he walked towards his death.
Joe lived for 37 years with an inherited blood disorder that could have ended his life at any time. Fortunately, he was able to live and work independently for most of his adult life. During the last two years, he was too ill to maintain his fierce need for independence. He was physically limited, on oxygen and in chronic pain. I retired just before his health declined severely, so I was able to act as his primary caregiver.
My journey with the school taught me about “holding space” for someone as a witness to them without judgement. As a result, Joe allowed me in.
We basically lived together for the last six months of his life. We laughed, cried, talked about death and what, if anything, comes after. He was afraid of just “disappearing.” He sat in is his lift chair, dozing off as I massaged his swollen feet and legs, remembering to keep my “heart in my hands” as I was taught. He had a hard time accepting that his body was not going to sustain him much longer.
I had the courage to ease him toward that reality because of the work I’d done through the Body Electric School exploring my own relationship to death. It is impossible for me to describe the depth of love and intimacy I felt with my son. His palliative care doctor told me that in her many years of doing palliative care and hospice work, she had never witnessed anything like it.
During those two years I wrote to my tribe about what was happening: my fears, joys, frustrations, hopes, revelations and grief. Writing sustained me, held me up, kept me going and giving to Joe. After he passed, two of my Sacred Brothers traveled across the country to be with me, hold me, share erotic connection with me and love me.
That is the essence of The (New) Body Electric School.”
You can start your journey to freedom, love, intimacy, and erotic connection by coming to the next Body Electric School training near you.
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